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Yesterday morning one of my daycare moms walked in and said "Wow, fancy glass for the Thrive shake this morning?" It took me a minute to figure out what she was talking about. I drink my Thrive shake, and everything else, out of an Iced Tea Glass or Stemless Wine Glass...all the time, everyday. Those are literally the only options you can choose from in my cabinets. This is apparently not a normal thing?
!Just kidding! I know it's not the norm. We all grew up with 2 sets of dishes right? You had the family/daily dishes and the "company" dishes. There was the plastic cup shelf and then way up high were the pretty glasses, that were taken down when company came by. I get it. Kids break stuff. It's expensive to replace. We all like having nice stuff, right? But how fun is it to have nice stuff that you rarely use?
It's no secret, I have a problem with rules, and doing things the way others think you should...always have. I'm 42 years old and have just now figured out that it's ok, in fact, it's flipping awesome to do things your way, in your time, and completely freeing to not care, a single ounce, what others think! (Look at me not using even one cuss word in that sentence. Way to go Me!) So, when I "grew up" and got my own house I decided there were no rules on the dishes. I, and my kids, will drink out of "fancy" glasses everyday, and by God we always have!
Don't get me wrong. I'm a daycare provider. Two year olds are NOT drinking chocolate milk from stemless wine glasses at the daily breakfast table! (I'm not stupid, nor do I have time to clean that kind of mess, that often.) Yes, we have a cabinet of sippy cups and plastic tumblers, even one with divided cafeteria style plates. But, how special do you think your 7, 10 or even 15 year old feels when he or she doesn't have to pick from the bottom shelf all the time? What message could that be sending? I'll tell you. You are silently telling your child...
I know some of you are going to get hung up on them being "glass". It's ok. That's a natural mama thing to do. (Safety first!) Guess what? They make plastic "fancy" glasses now. Whaaat?? Yep, they do! And let's not get stuck in the kitchen. This isn't really about the glasses. Think about it, where in your life do you give off a "others are more special than your kids" vibe? Do you have guest towels, sheets, or comforters? A bathroom that is off limits? Maybe a special dish that you reserve for cooking only when someone is visiting?
I hear you already! "But Jen, I want things to look and be nice when people come to visit. Kids can really be tough on things." You're right! But honestly, do you think your family and friends don't expect that from your kids? And maybe you absolutely can't get past the glasses thing. That's OK. Pick something else? Today, make a declaration to your children that there are no longer "Good Towels" and "Your Towels", they are free to use any towel in the house that they want! Your special dish, that they absolutely love, is no longer only for when someone else comes over for a visit. You would LOVE to make it for them, any night! Convey those messages to them. Let them know that they are just as special as anyone else that walks through your door.
You can do it Mama! Go build confident, trusted, happy kids!
Kinda feels awesome to not stress over the fancy, company only glasses anymore, huh?
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I'm a mama of three crazy, hilarious, amazing kids and the owner of an in home daycare for over 11 years.